What's your why?
How often do you stop and ponder WHY you are here? Like, right here in this place in your life?
What path brought you to this exact moment?
We live in a fast paced world where taking the time to stop and ponder some of life's bigger questions seems to always take the back seat.
As a society we seem to have these set paths in life, these 'norms.' We are taught to go to school...we then go to uni...find a job....get married, get a mortgage and then continue to buy things and fit into society without ever seeming to question - WHY???
I feel blessed to have had a relatively unconventional childhood. The way I was raised forced me to question everything and think outside the box. I was also lucky enough to have had some incredible mentors ( as a teenager questioning the world, ) who encouraged me to follow the path less trodden.
Let's just say it's a big thing to drop out of school, move to the other side of the freakin' world and create a life for yourself. Seriously, people have many varying opinions about it but the big part I want to get across is that it's not easy and its almost never black and white! But if it is the right thing to do then stand in your truth and don't shy away from the discomfort and challenge.
I could easily have settled for less! I was a good student. I could have stayed in school, done well and headed off to uni backed by the scholarship fund my parents had set up for me. But I knew it wasn't right. I knew there had to be more.
To be clear, I don't think going to university is a bad thing.....I just knew it wasn't the right fit for me.
So instead I spent 6 years travelling the world figuring out what that 'more' was... those 6 years were honestly the hardest years of my life. Don't take that the wrong way, they were also incredible, really truly amazing - I got to see and do so many things that most people only ever dream of. I learned so much about the world, about myself and about what I wanted from this life.
And you know what I figured out after all that time,
I came to the realisation that I had been chasing a trophy, I been telling myself for so long that if I was thinner, fitter, funnier etc.. then I would be happy, and do you know what I learned?? There is no perfect state. Life has a way of continuously throwing new curve balls at you. Every time you think you've 'made it' another challenge will pop up. THAT'S LIFE! How you learn to deal with those challenges is what sets you apart from the herd. Learning to be self aware and figure out your personal WHY is so important. Because that is where you will find the grit to keep pushing when the going gets tough.
Knowing who you want to be, what you want to achieve in your life and WHY, is the most important thing you will ever figure out. Because, when the time comes to face yourself and ask the question of what to do next the answer should be easy. Yes....this fulfills my why or NO....this is leading me away from my true purpose.
Figuring out my WHY has been the greatest lesson I've ever learned. It has allowed me to become a business owner, an adventurer and a loving partner. I love the life I live because I know that I'm living it on my terms. I have made every decision that has led me to this point based on what I want out of this life and not on what others expect of me. I am happy, I am grateful, and I know WHY!